Well that was a short but long day.

"Svend" (svend)
03/13/2019 at 00:12 • Filed to: None

I couldn’t sleep that much the other night and when I finally dozed off it was almost time to get up again.

Yesterday was the day of mum’s funeral. I was anxious of the funeral and mum’s family.

The cars came at 11:45 and we made our way to the chapel.

(it’s amazing how people say the stupidest things , such as why was this archway too narrow, some funeral cars ended up scuffing their tyres on the rubbing stone on the right. I just replied, ‘well it was built in 1853 and cars weren’t all that big back then’).

We went in and to the chapel which was very nice and not overly done with religious stuff, we had an ‘efficient’ presiding which is a mid way between religi ous and humanist, so it was nice hearing about my mum rather than gospels and the bible, etc...

Then we made our way to the graveside. I walked with some of the family while the rest took the funeral cars (turns out Mercedes Benz car are less spacious and less comfortable than the Skoda Superb).

It had been raining and the ground was a little slippery under foot (thanks mum, Lol) but here’s what it l ooks like under more hospitable conditions.

Mum was placed in a short distance beyond the fifth and sixth tree from the right.

Went back and had tea and coffee with the family, which it turns out I needn’t of been so anxious about.

And although everything was over in three hours and they didn’t seem long s such, it was a very hard going and exhausting three hours.

That’s one part over with, now the healing phase I guess.

Goodnight mum, sleep well. I love you. XX

Thank everybody who’s offered their support and condolences, it is greatly appreciated.

DISCUSSION (22)

Future Heap Owner > Svend
03/13/2019 at 00:21

I’m sorry she’s gone. I hope the ceremonies g ave you some modicum of acceptance

Merfthemadmauler > Svend
03/13/2019 at 00:23

Condolences.

ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com > Svend
03/13/2019 at 00:24

These type of days are never easy, but it sounds like she was given a lovely and heartfelt send off. You’ve done well. Know that I’m always pulling for you, my friend.

Svend > Future Heap Owner
03/13/2019 at 00:36

Thank you.

Ye’, that bit is over. Some clerical work now.

But I think the worst is over and there is a degree of closure there.

Svend > Merfthemadmauler
03/13/2019 at 00:36

Thank you.

Svend > ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com
03/13/2019 at 00:40

Thanks mate.

The efficient said a few things wrong and/or out of place, so I was waiting for some of mum’s family to chime in. But they didn’t and it all went peacefully a nd with respect. Turns out it actually brought some of the family closer together, which is what mum would of wanted, but I’m sue mum would’ve wanted to be there and I wish she was too.

gmporschenut also a fan of hondas > Svend
03/13/2019 at 01:01

I’m sorry for your loss. That looks like a very quiet place to rest. Good things went smooth your family.

Svend > gmporschenut also a fan of hondas
03/13/2019 at 01:14

Thank you.

It’s a lovely place.

It was made a little more light hearted when grand dad said, ‘this is the dead centre of Carlisle’ , to which my step-father said, ‘ there’s quite a waiting list, people are dying to get in’.

pip bip - choose Corrour > Svend
03/13/2019 at 05:12

good to hear it went off without a hitch.

so long as there was plenty of nibbles and the tea was hot.

BvdV - The Dutch Engineer > Svend
03/13/2019 at 06:07

Once again my condolences mate. It sounds like she had a very worthy farewell.

Svend > BvdV - The Dutch Engineer
03/13/2019 at 06:44

Thank you.

She did. People say at funerals, ‘she would of liked this’, and honestly she would of.

Captain of the Enterprise > Svend
03/13/2019 at 07:06

That sounds like it went pretty well. I’m sorry for your loss. It sounds very exhausting and difficult. I know it was for me too when my mother died. Let me know if you want to talk or anything. It does get better over time.

vondon302 > Svend
03/13/2019 at 07:08

Best wishes to you and yours again.

It'll get better it will always sting but not as much down the road.

shop-teacher > Svend
03/13/2019 at 07:33

I’m glad to hear it went well, and that you can have that day as a positive memory.

When my mom passed, there was a bit of family drama I was worried about as well . I had deputized some of my best friends to escort a certain someone out, if they dared to show up. Thankfully that person got the message, and stayed away. We we're able to have a nice service and celebrate my mom's life. It was good.

Cé hé sin > Svend
03/13/2019 at 07:47

We said goodbye to my last Aunt recently and we all said how she'd have loved to have been there (if you know what I mean). She used to treat funerals as a social occasion because she used to meet so many people there. RIP.

LimitedTimeOnly @ opposite-lock.com > Svend
03/13/2019 at 08:24

Thinking of you. Sounds like it went quite well, and hopefully it really does bring healthy closure for you.

Svend > Captain of the Enterprise
03/13/2019 at 09:11

Thanks mate. It’s done now, now the wedding to gt through. Lol.

Svend > shop-teacher
03/13/2019 at 09:30

Thanks. We had the same with Auntie Dawn (Mum’s youngest sister) . We made a point or not telling her when it was going to be held as she wasn’t invited. Thankfully she never found out or came up so avoided an incident.

I’m glad yours went like mine, peacefully and with respect.

Svend > Cé hé sin
03/13/2019 at 09:39

Sorry about your auntie mate.

Ye’, mum was like that.

Seems the only time people meet up these days is at funerals, it used to be weddings and funerals but more and more are keep ing away from weddings these days because more people are staying single and wanting to avoid the whole, ‘so when are we going to be coming to your wedding then!?’.

Svend > LimitedTimeOnly @ opposite-lock.com
03/13/2019 at 09:46

Cheers mate.

xc90v8/I4 :( > Svend
03/13/2019 at 21:42

Well done mate.

Looks like a nice final place to rest.

I can’t imagine what this feels like and I do hope I have many years not knowing.

My condolences and let me know if you need anything. I will now open a nice homebrewed IPA thinking of your mother.

Svend > xc90v8/I4 :(
03/13/2019 at 22:04

Thanks mate.

I sincerely hope you don’t find out for many years also.

Cheers mate, enjoy.